overcoming a depression

Overcoming a depression is something really hard.
It takes a lot of time to deal with the problems you have, sometimes you can’t overcome certain things but  you have to learn to handle them in your life.

It’s hard to explain how i overcame my depression.
The hardest part was building up my self-image.
I felt like I was not worth anything. Because of the mental abuse that my stepmother did to me.
Because of my dad’s suicide I felt like i wasn’t worth enough to keep living and fighting.
I started thinking ‘If I was good enough than my dad would never have committed suicide’

Ofcouse it was wrong for me to think that, but I was only 12 years old.
by years of therapy I started to see that people who commit suicide only see their problems. It’s like a dark tunnel without an exit. They start to believe that they are doing their loved ones a plessure by leaving the world. They feel like a burden.
the main problem with my dad was that he couldn’t talk about his feelings.
He always suppressed everything…
The conclusion I took from that is that you aren’t strong when you suppress your feelings, you are strong when you can talke to people and ask for help because it is one of het hardest things to do.

Building up your self-image can only be accomplished by success stories.
You have to go out in the world and try. Sometimes you will hit a wall but with the right people you will feel good about yourself and they will help you to feel better.
With me it will always stay a problem because of the abuse, I was at a certain age when it happened when you need encouregment and a safe enviorement to develop yourself.
But I learned myself a few tricks to handle it.
I surround myself with people who love me and give me possitive feelings. This people will always support and help me if I’m going trough a hard time.
When I get in a situation where my self-image is tested I always text them or talk to them so they can build it back up.
Ofcourse you can’t depend only on others to do this. You have to believe in yourself and you have to keep searching things where you are good in. Everybody had this things, and maybe they aren’t the realy big things but it can be litle things too. Like i’m good in reading.

The first step to overcome a depression is realy to make a click.
You have to accept that you have a problem and that you have to work on it.
You have to believe that you deserve better that the depressed life that you are leading now. Sometimes it’s a good thing to start working on it not for yourself but for your loved ones because they suffer to when you are sad. But this can not keep going. At a certain point you have to do it for you. Because nobody in the world is more important than yourself.
I know it sounds kind of selfish but you have to be happy yourself before you can make someone else happy.
I was lucky to have my mom, she always kept supporting me. She was always there to talk to when I was sad. She always helped me with everything.

Never forget that you are woth it! Maybe I don’t know you but I am certain that you are a good person. Everybody has a good and a bad side, you choose which you show to the world.
Nobody deserves to be depressed and nobody deserves to think about suicide.
If you are thinking about it, please stop.
You can be helped. Because believe me if you commit suicide the people surounding you will be hurt although you maybe think different.

 

 

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